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Alternative Lifestyles are so named because they are other
ways of living. Included is Swinging, homosexuality, which includes gay men and
gay women (lesbians), and bisexuality. Occasionally gays will think that the
term is derogatory. It is not meant to be in this sense. I apologize if it's
taken this way. No offense is meant.
What all of the Alternative Lifestyles have in common, is that
because for one reason or another, they're not socially acceptable, it is often
very difficult to meet other people
It includes Swingers, Gays, Lesbians, Bisexuals, BDSM
and other fetishes. The fetishes include, but are not limited to Bondage,
Voyeurism, exhibitionism, foot, sadism, masochism, etc.
This is because unless one is "out", it is uncomfortable
to make public ovations toward other people In Alternative Lifestyles. Because of this, other non typical
methods are necessary when it comes to meeting other people.
Another major difference applies to gay men, swingers,
bisexuals, and to a much lesser extent to lesbians. This difference is in the
relative promiscuity in Alternative Lifestyles to the rest of the population. Consequently it is
difficult to rely on traditional methods, such as family, friends, church, etc.
The old adage "You get what you pay for", really applies
here. There is no "free lunch".
You will have to pay for something in some way. It may
be that you're deluged with banner advertising, or pop-up windows. Or the
complimentary aspect, may be merely a "come on". Somewhere along the line, you
will probably be asked for money. And this only makes sense. The internet
isn't free, so why would we expect the ads to be.
Actually the classified personals are an excellent
value if you want to get into Alternative Lifestyles. People pay quite a bit for swingers magazines. What they get is static
and unchanging. With a computerized version of the same magazine, you get a
dynamic listing. With the better systems you get updates on Alternative
Lifestyles as soon as new entries
are made. Many have pictures attached to the ads, which are usually of much
better quality than the magazines.
Alternative Lifestyles listings
offer you protection for your naked pictures from copying. It's much safer than
mailing your pics all over the internet and consequently the world. Who knows
where they will end up?
This is an excellent way to meet people like yourself in
It gives you an opportunity to learn much about a person or couple, in a safe
environment. Usually you can see pictures of the individuals involved. It
takes a lot of work for these people to put a page on the internet.
Consequently, if someone goes to this much trouble, they're likely to be serious
about meeting, and ultimately swinging. You should be aware that there are
many more people that don't have sites than do have them. This is because in
order to put a page up on the web, some computer expertise is required.
Consequently, if you want a more diverse selection, you're better off referring
to the classifieds, parties or clubs for Alternative Lifestyles.
Although this may vary slightly in each Alternative
Lifestyle, in general the swinging community is quite accepting of a variety of
body types, sizes, ages, and shapes. Additionally, many on-premises events
provide an opportunity to dress sexily or go completely nude, which can be a fun
and sensual experience in and of itself involving Alternative Lifestyles.
What Might I Dislike About Alternative Lifestyles?
If you are uncomfortable with people in Alternaive
Lifestyles being sexually attracted to you and/or flirting with you, then you
might be uncomfortable at swinging events; similarly, if your relationship with
your partner is on shaky ground, you might find seeing him or her flirt or be
flirted with to be an uncomfortable experience. If either of you have hidden
agendas concerning finding a permanent "replacement" for each other, you're
probably in for a major emotional disaster. If you and your partner cannot
communicate directly about relationships and sex, you're probably eventually in
for a similarly-sized disaster. In general, sex can provoke strong feelings
along with its many pleasures; if you aren't comfortable dealing with emotions,
then perhaps it might be better to wait a little while before exploring
If you are bothered by seeing people in Alternative
Lifestyles, have sex without condoms, then you might want to avoid some of
the larger play areas in many on-premises swinger's events. Although I have
never run into a situation in the Alternative Lifestyles where my requests to
use latex were looked down on in any way, it is certainly true that not all
on-premises clubs require the use of safer sex precautions. Depending on your
experience with sex-positive communities other than swinging, seeing others not
use latex may be unsettling to you. You should know what your own standards are
with regard to safer sex, and be willing to articulate them to new people or
couples you are about to have sex with. If your personal safer sex standards
include using barriers for cunnilingus, then you should be prepared to do some
explaining as not everyone will be familiar with this practice in Alternaive
As one would expect, good communication is critical in
any attempt at swinging as a couple. There are many, many different forms that
swinging may take, and whichever one you choose is fine as long as you and your
partner are clear about what you are doing and why. Sex has the potential to be
an emotionally-charged area, and the pleasures that may be found in swinging can
generally be reached only when both partners are sensitive to each others'
needs, and put their partner's comfort first.
There are several different styles of Alternative
Lifestyles, which you may see in the swinging community. Some people may prefer
not to be around when their partner is having sex with someone else ("closed
swinging"), while others may insist on it ("open swinging"). The term "soft
swinging" refers to trading partners just for the purposes of heavy petting and
then switching back to one's primary partner for any actual sex. It might be
valuable for you to think about whether there are any potential Alternative
Lifestyles that you feel you would be more or less comfortable in, and discuss
these with your partner.
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